Personal experience: 33 rules to follow in New York to avoid troubles

New York is a multicultural city, and in order to live comfortably in it, everyone here adheres to certain rules and foundations. The publication writes about how people of different views, cultures and traditions learned to interact. Snob.

In New York, people of a wide variety of views, cultures and traditions have learned to live in unison, and the recipe for the success of their jazz band is partly in politeness, benevolence, rationality, mutual respect and a certain amount of humor.

Maxim Sablin, who lived in New York long enough to draw his conclusions, told how a huge number of New Yorkers managed to secretly agree to build a world comfortable for each of them. Below we will talk about the rules of tact of New Yorkers.

1. Courtesy. People in New York are polite. Most often here you can hear the words please ”,“ thank you ”and“ sorry ”.
2. Requests... Most often, if they want to ask you for something, they use polite forms of verbs, for example, instead of "can" - "could". Otherwise, the request will sound like: "I need your clothes, boots and motorcycle."
3. Thanks. The words of gratitude here sound so that you are ready to transfer your grandmother across the road back, even if she does not need it.
4. Apologies. In New York, in all incomprehensible incidents, people are used to apologizing, not understanding who is right and who is to blame.
5. "Magic words." Residents of the largest city in America really put courtesy, gratitude and apology into the "magic words".
6. Sincere smile. In this city, people are used to smiling heartily, and this is always noticeable.
7. Goodwill surrounds you at every step - in conversations, on tablets, in advertising, in restaurants and museums, in the subway and on the streets. You are more likely to be encouraged than condemned, encouraged, than passed by.
8. Friendly relations - The norm in New York. It is customary to ask, “how are you?” And wish the cashiers, cooks, waiters working in the neighborhood from your home a good day.
9. Mutual assistance. People here seek, if possible, help or suggest how to solve a problem situation, if you asked them about it.
10. Shops. If you have been choosing a product in a store for a long time, but you haven’t bought anything, then here the seller’s normal response is “Everything is good, come again.” You can count on such a relationship anywhere.
11. Traditions... They respect the traditions, culture and religion that your family adheres to. “Muslim quarters celebrate their holidays, Hasidim in Brooklyn wear black, and on the holiday of Mexicans Cinco de Mayo they all walk together. On weekends, the Mexican community occupies one part of the park, the African community occupies another, and no one bothers anyone, ”the author writes.
12. School. If you come to arrange a child for school, then you will not be asked for documents about his right to reside in the country.
13. Assimilation. Many people choose to live in their national area, not wanting to assimilate. This is not a success story, but in New York, everyone chooses what to do, and this is considered normal. In any case, children of migrants usually grow up different.
14. Self expression. The right to be oneself is holy here. Self-expression and personality are encouraged, respected and encouraged, especially if it works out well.
15. Style. Here you can dress as you like. Nobody will blame you for this, but rather approve. Therefore, New York resembles a glossy magazine - people think through their wardrobe in detail, and on the street there are many bright and stylish people of all ages.
16. Work. Any work here is respected - no one will say that handing out leaflets is shameful, but for someone who does not work, it is better to find a job. Here everyone earns as they can.
17. Tolerance. In this city, they calmly react if, for example, someone knocks a basketball on the subway. But if this person starts to hit this ball against the windows of the train, they will make a remark, but without moralizing and conflict.
18. Life. In New York, the main thing is not to disturb others from living.
19. Turn. People in the queues respect each other: if you come first, then get the first place, if the last - your place at the end. If you don’t understand where the line ends and whether it is a line, and not just a group of tourists near the attraction, then simply specify: “Are you in line?”.

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Usually, requests to get to the end of the line are treated with understanding. It seems wild who does not respect the rule of the queue. They will not hate him or shout at him, they will even let him pass, but they will shrug their shoulders in bewilderment.

Often, sellers of services themselves take care of the order, put up racks with ribbons, hire managers. McDonald’s cashiers or coach drivers may not be able to serve if they have bypassed the line. Because the line is sacred.

20. Rules. If some generally accepted norms, such as behavior in queues, are violated, then they will politely, but persistently tell you about it.
21. Споры. In the event of a dispute, substantive arguments are respected here, as opposed to attacks and personalization. They try to argue without emotion in order to understand the matter on the merits.
22. Rationality in everything - perhaps this is one of the main backbones of public life in New York. “For example, the New York subway is a monument to rationality. Each station looks roughly the same: concrete, tiles, and iron. 40% of stations are ground based. Pragmatic and cheap, ”the author notes.

As for the streets - their arrangement here is also rational. For example, the streets of Manhattan are parallel-perpendicular and instead of names (although they also sometimes exist) - numbers. It resembles a chessboard, making it very convenient to navigate here.

23. Public oversight. On the green fences around the construction site there is always a square plastic window through which you can watch what is being done there.
24. Rationality. The rationality in this city comes to the fact that in the parks they put watering places for dogs, they are lower in level than for runners.
25. Understanding. In coffee houses, if all the tables are occupied, it is customary to sit down with others, and this does not cause irritation. On the contrary, you will be invited to sit next to you. Here everyone is obliged to make room with a lack of space, the attitude to such inconveniences is the most everyday and understanding.
26. In the underground. At the same time, it is customary to move back in the subway if there are a lot of empty seats.
27. Economy. New York is a huge and expensive metropolis where the issue of money is relevant for everyone. Therefore, here they are sympathetic to the desire to save others.
28. In case of difficulty - for example, if you do not have money for a ticket in transport, you may be allowed to pass, despite the fact that the rules are sacred. For the same reason, the beggar will not be driven out of the diner, but will be given bread.
29. Come into position. When the author made a mistake in the time system (AM, PM) and missed a jazz concert, the organizers invited him to visit the next one for free, although they were not obliged to do it.
30. The convenience of citizens. Here they will tell and explain the information as accessible and clear as possible, for example, using text-graphic pointers, warnings, arrows and plates.

“The signs are posted about the repair of the subway, about slippery asphalt, about a low ceiling, about a hole in the road, about everything that the average person needs to know,” the author noted. “For difficult cases, such as the closure of a metro station, those who come are greeted by specially trained stewards who advise where to go and distribute tickets for a free bus.”

31. Organization. The events here are organized at the highest level. So, at competitions you will be transferred from one specialist to another: in one place you sign, in another - you will receive a number, in the third - just go to the gym.
32. Free english. So that people can better understand each other, there are free English courses here.
33. Humor welcome here, people joke everywhere and for any reason. Moreover, he is not malicious, and ridicule, grins, causticity, injections, mockery, insults, rudeness, rudeness, causticity - a bad form. The main thing New Yorkers remember is the comfort of the interlocutor, who is more important to them than humor. If the joke was incomprehensible or unpleasant for the interlocutor, it is customary to convincingly apologize and stop joking.